Why you're unsatisfied

From experience, I’ve felt unsatisfied because of three general root causes: the rejection of reality, self-hatred, and fear.

This year, I read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle (I strongly recommend it) and this is one of the most impactful things that I have read:

“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation that you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. (...) 
When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power.” 

Ergo, you have three options if you are unsatisfied:

• change the situation,

• leave the situation,

• accept it fully (not contempt, true acceptance).

None of this is that easy, but nothing that makes you grow and get you out of your comfort zone is easy.

This year I also decided I was going to start acting like my best self, and one thing I needed to be that person was to stop being annoyed with everything.

I started a gratefulness journal - a small notebook where I write down three things I’m grateful for every day. It can be anything, like ‘I have an able body’, and it takes less than two minutes a day.

It has, significantly, improved my mood and interactions with people, and it helps me slow down and stop thinking so much. Taking a few controlled breaths, and being in the present, realizing that at the moment nothing is completely wrong, is a tool to help us stop being unsatisfied and start being present, aware, and grateful.